I have a new behavior plan, and yes, it involves diamonds. I used to use charts for my older one all the time with stickers or checks marks. Let me tell you, it is really hard to keep track of three charts. The last time I tried doing charts, I found one of my twins standing on a chair making their own check marks, (i.e. scribble scratch) but still. I have been wracking my brain trying to figure out what kind of chart/behavior plan/skill that I could pull out of my bag of tricks. Let’s face it, every mom, speech therapist (also me), teacher, or anyone who works with kids needs a bag of tricks with lots of good stuff in it. So my new plan is that I bought a bag of diamonds from Michael’s and they are my “cooperation diamonds.” They look a little different than those flat-backed diamond that my kids glue on paper for art projects so frequently. I have 3 girls and they love diamonds and anything else that’s sparkly. You could do this with anything that your child is interested in or that you just have lying around the house, marbles, poker chips, beads, Barbie shoes. (Cause what else are those things good for?) Diamonds work for us. Like these: 800 Diamond Table Confetti Wedding Bridal Shower Party Decorations 4 Carat/ 10mm Clear
This plan is positive reinforcement (catch them doing something good) and the reward is immediate (instant gratification.) They do something good and are immediately rewarded for it. Also, I told them that I would trade diamonds for money and they could spend their money at the dollar store. You could also do other rewards that they have to work toward, pizza night, ice cream, special date with mommy, etc.
I started this almost a week ago and it is working. They get cooperation diamonds by being cooperative, whether that is helping or getting along with their sisters, willingly helping to clean up something, not fighting me when it’s time to get dressed, brush teeth, get out the door for school, etc. I’ve seen an improvement. Thank God! I’ve seen them start to fight over something, then drop it and one gives in or my big one helps one of the little ones do something. It’s impressive.
I keep my diamonds in a special place in the kitchen or sometimes in my pocket and when they receive one, I give it to them immediately or tell them they will get one when we get home if I don’t have any in the car or when we are out and about. When you start, be very generous with the diamonds. Give them cooperation diamonds for little things at first so they get the picture and get on board. I was letting them carry around the diamonds in little bags at first. That was a mistake. They kept losing them and then we’d find them and we didn’t know who they were for. Of course, everyone claimed them. Now each one has a plastic cup with their name on it an it stays on a high shelf of the bookcase.
Let me know if you try this with your kids or if you have any questions. I think it’s the speech therapist in me that is always trying to come up with ways to make things work around here.
Get started now with these diamonds:
800 Diamond Table Confetti Wedding Bridal Shower Party Decorations 4 Carat/ 10mm Clear
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